I once read a statement by a male author (I wish I remembered who it was) that war brings men a sense of satisfaction far greater than any sexual experience, that it is through war that they can truly embody the true values of masculinity.
This statement stuck in my mind, because I always wondered about the motivations of men, and I always knew that they were certainly different from the motivations of women. Yes sometimes men are a mystery to women just as women are perceived to be a mystery to men. My point here however is to think further about the differences of perception about the subject of wars: power struggles and the use of deadly force to resolve them.
Is it the territorial drive? Is it the need to be the strongest, the alpha male? What exactly is it that drives this aggressive tendency towards others that can lead to killing? This drive is definitely present in most animals, but as thinking creatures with advanced technology, humans should be the exception? or may be not? I think it is important to note at this juncture that I am trying to explore this without any judgement and without qualifying these attributes as positive or negative.
The escalation of conflict and aggressive behavior leads to war which equals killing. In modern warfare killing is no longer a man to man battle, but an endeavor that allows one to kill many, and often times, many whose faces are never seen by the perpetrator of the killing. Here I did not say killer, because killing in warfare is not considered a criminal act, yet it is still the taking of someone’s life.
So how did we raise the killing in war to a higher moral level than plain murder? How is this act justified within the confines of our religious and social moral codes in order to balance the aggressive killing instinct with the issues of conscience? I have heard tales from men who fought in wars of the high they feel during battle, of a blood thirsty state while in the heat of it all, and of the lows experienced after it is over, with feelings of remorse and of disgust over the acts they had committed. War seems to only be glorified and romanticized by those who have never really participated actively in it or lived through it.
What makes this a bearable and repeatable state? I can think of some possible explanations: the concept tribal and later national belonging, expansion and defense are certainly ones that play a major role. Idols, ideologies and ideas are also culprits, men die and kill to defend them.
Warriors or soldiers step out of the confines of the universal codes of human morality for a period of time during wars. Their belonging shifts to tighter circles, whether these circles are national, ethnic, religious, etc… Within these circles of belonging, killing is justified as a means to resolve conflict under the umbrella of a different code of ethics, one that men understand on a basic subconscious level.
And on a basic subconscious level, women admire this but I don’t think we will ever fully understand it, nor accept it. The input of the male readers will be welcomed and anticipated!