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Tolerance is not Necessarily Respect

In a discussion with a friend on the subject of tolerance in a pluralistic society, the issue of respecting the “other’s” beliefs and convictions came up.
My friend said: “I can tolerate them but I can’t respect them” and that was a statement that got me thinking!

Let me backtrack a bit here: In my corner of the world, conflict is rampant. What is now called the Middle East is the source, and bottomless well, of diversity, war, and polarization.

Back to the tolerance issue, and I’ve written about this before on this blog, because lately, I am having trouble being tolerant and I’m not liking myself too much because of it.

So my friend’s statement gave me a bit of relief, since it differentiated between tolerance and respect.

You know the adage: I respect your opinion but I don’t agree with it? That’s a load of bull! I only respect your right to have your own opinion, but not the opinion itself. Additionally I only respect your right to have your own opinion as long as you voice it and manifest it logically.

I am allowed not to agree with, and not to respect your opinion, but for the sake of coexisting on this piece of the planet, I will tolerate it (only as long as your opinion does not become hostile action towards me, but that is another story).

Mind you, this is an internal issue; I am only allowing myself to disrespect and loathe the others’ opinions and practices while tolerating them internally, in my head. I am in no way condoning disrespectful speech or hostile action against others as is so rampant these days.

You see, it gives you inner peace to allow yourself to not only disagree, but also disrespect things that do not match your system of thinking, however, as soon as you begin to voice that disrespect, then it becomes intolerance and slander.

Personally and very frankly, I am more concerned with my inner peace at this stage than I am with changing the opinions of others, and in order to maintain that peace I do need to be tolerant, but will allow myself not to respect and to strongly dislike (I don’t like the word hate) the nonsense I see all around me.

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YOLO vs FOMO!

Welcome to the acronyms of the information overload era – welcome to abbreviated life so we can catch up on everything!

Social media and constant connectivity have given birth to many new terms, words, trends, afflictions, and syndromes…

YOLO: You Only Live Once became a very popular trend on social media, and it was followed by FOMO: Fear of Missing Out (quite naturally, since you only live once you will be afraid of missing out!)

HOWEVER, I see a bit of a contradiction:  If you want to follow the YOLO rules, you can’t be always thinking about what you are missing out on, especially since FOMO requires you to stay connected and in the know all the time – so no time to live?

ON THE OTHER HAND, if you are living in that virtual parallel universe most of the time, then you may have no problem!

I think FOMO will eventually develop into a real clinical phobia, unless people try to truly disconnect for extended periods of time (not an easy task, try being away from the net for 48 hours! Go ahead, I dare you.)  I will be the first to admit that since a friend mentioned the term to me, I have begun to suspect that I may be a victim of this syndrome. I had to convince myself that if YOLO, you need to disconnect, to miss out on things, in order to fully enjoy others (the moment if you want to call it that).

It is obvious now that we are never fully mindful of our moments, instead we always wonder about what is happening elsewhere.  This is because we have easy access to what is happening elsewhere, and really, that easy access can make us lose out on fully enjoying where we are and who we are with….

FOMO is a form of social anxiety — a compulsive concern that one might miss an opportunity for social interaction, a novel experience, profitable investment or other satisfying event.  This is especially associated with modern technologies such as smart phones and social networks.

YOLO  is an acronym for “you only live once”. Similar to carpe diem or memento mori, it implies that one should enjoy life, even if that entails taking risks.

don't live in fear!

don’t live in fear!

 

 

 

 

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