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Tolerance is not Necessarily Respect

In a discussion with a friend on the subject of tolerance in a pluralistic society, the issue of respecting the “other’s” beliefs and convictions came up.
My friend said: “I can tolerate them but I can’t respect them” and that was a statement that got me thinking!

Let me backtrack a bit here: In my corner of the world, conflict is rampant. What is now called the Middle East is the source, and bottomless well, of diversity, war, and polarization.

Back to the tolerance issue, and I’ve written about this before on this blog, because lately, I am having trouble being tolerant and I’m not liking myself too much because of it.

So my friend’s statement gave me a bit of relief, since it differentiated between tolerance and respect.

You know the adage: I respect your opinion but I don’t agree with it? That’s a load of bull! I only respect your right to have your own opinion, but not the opinion itself. Additionally I only respect your right to have your own opinion as long as you voice it and manifest it logically.

I am allowed not to agree with, and not to respect your opinion, but for the sake of coexisting on this piece of the planet, I will tolerate it (only as long as your opinion does not become hostile action towards me, but that is another story).

Mind you, this is an internal issue; I am only allowing myself to disrespect and loathe the others’ opinions and practices while tolerating them internally, in my head. I am in no way condoning disrespectful speech or hostile action against others as is so rampant these days.

You see, it gives you inner peace to allow yourself to not only disagree, but also disrespect things that do not match your system of thinking, however, as soon as you begin to voice that disrespect, then it becomes intolerance and slander.

Personally and very frankly, I am more concerned with my inner peace at this stage than I am with changing the opinions of others, and in order to maintain that peace I do need to be tolerant, but will allow myself not to respect and to strongly dislike (I don’t like the word hate) the nonsense I see all around me.


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Fundamentalist Extremists Don’t Bother Me!

At least fundamentalist extremists are clear about their dogma and about who they hate and what they worship.
What bothers me are those people who act moderate in their ideological or religious views, and then turn into radical monsters at the drop of a button, spewing all kinds of toxic talk. Those people not only bother me, but they scare me!! I know to stay away from the extremists, they are honest and visible and obvious, and they let you know they are coming to get you if you disagree with them, but the extremists at heart with moderate cloaks, well they will get you when you’re not looking!
I respect those who are honest enough with themselves to publicly announce their real convictions whatever they might be, yes, I respect the fundamentalist extremists, and I despise those who shift ideology or belief to fit the trend the day, and those who hide their true extremist colors also to fit the trend of the day.

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Tolerating Intolerance?

If you are to call yourself tolerant,  would that include tolerating extreme and hateful intolerance?

Lately, I have found the boundaries of my tolerance stretched and tested.  I have noticed an epidemic close-mindedness in the atmosphere, and a lot of hate that stems from it, and from that a lot of intolerance for others, all others.

More and more it seems people are closing in on their minds and returning back to the limited and counterproductive statement: “you’re either with us, or against us”.

All types of intolerance is running rampant: political, social, racial, ethnic, religious, etc… and with a new reactionary fervor that is both threateningly aggressive and illogical.

I don’t really want to go into why people are going backwards towards this primitive way of thinking, that’s for another entry, and deserves more than just mere observation and opinion.  What concerns me is finding a way of tolerating it, or enduring it, and not being pulled down to its level of hate.

Tolerance by definition is a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race, religion, nationality, etc.,differ from one’s own, or freedom from bigotry.  It is an interest in and concern for ideas, opinions, practices, etc.,foreign to one’s own or a liberal, undogmatic viewpoint.

So am I being dogmatic about being tolerant?

Can any of us really be objective, and therefore fair?

And when this wave of intolerance becomes a threat to our very existence, are we to still tolerate it?

These are questions that I seek answers to, they are not rhetorical but fundamental.  I am sure the answers are there and probably simpler than I imagine, but this  atmosphere of hate, anger, continuous aggression, and social disintegration into intellectual retardation has the capacity to weaken one’s defenses…..


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The Rhetoric of Anger and Hate on Social Networks

Why is it that people allow themselves to hate angrily and aggressively on Facebook and other social networks?  Is spewing poisonous statements and absurdities left and right  acceptable in  cyber society?

I can’t tell you how many of my contacts on Facebook I have hidden in the past few weeks, and it keeps escalating… Those were people whose lives intersected with mine on different levels and at different times, people I had some kind of common ground with.  But sadly I find my list dwindling because of the rhetoric that has crossed all civilized communications boundaries.  I am not saying that I have hidden people whose opinions are not similar to mine, I enjoy differences of opinion; they enrich my human experience and sometimes a well presented argument can even sway my views. I have, however reluctantly,  hidden those people who are completely intolerant, hateful, illogical, and insulting.

There are as many political opinions in this region as there are people, and just as many religious and cultural ones.  Differences abound and are only highlighted with the many conflicts that are looming over what is called the Arab World.  Hateful statements deepen the chasm between humans and only create more hate, more anger, more aggression, and more conflict.

Do you imagine yourself stepping out on your porch or balcony and shouting out  hateful statements full of insults and foul offensive language?  Would you make blanket ignorant statements about this or that group of people if you knew one of them was listening? That is what you are doing when you post them on your wall on in your status!!!

I am in no way saying that we should not voice our opinions online, social networks are a great vehicle to get your voice heard and to create constructive dialogues.  However, I am saying that we should stick to the normally acceptable rules of civilized debate and communication even if it is online; the virtual world is comprised of real people, with real feelings and real lives.

Anger and Hate do bad things to the person harboring them and expressing these emotions carelessly, vulgarly, and with no real examination does not help, but only reflects the sad image of a sad human…


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